Cury Ladies = Costume Parties and Cocktail Attire

Okay ladies, each year many of you struggle with the upcoming holidays. You are unable to find an outfit you just love, whether it is SEXY, slim fitting, doesn't show of that extra 5 pounds. I have a few suggestions for you and a few websites that may help for the Costume Party, Thanksgiving Dinner, Christmas Party at work and oh my favorite New Years Eve Bash.

Well I hope you enjoy and let me know what you think:

www.nordstrom.com
www.lanebryant.com
www.macys.com
www.wetseal.com
www.jcpenny.com
www.costumecauldron.com
www.yandy.com

Curves We Have

For those of us who were blessed with bodies full of curves, there is hope for the fashion industry yet. Many designers seem to forget the 17 Billion Dollar Industry of clothes for women with curves. This is not to say just Plus size Clothing, this is a wake up call for designers who continue to design clothes for the models on the runway without a curve in site.

Let's step away for a minute and take a look at a few great finds for those of us who care about our curves and want to look Fantabulous!

Get it together

People of Color must realize our Health is important.

It is crucial to our survival to take care of ourselfs and each other. Looking out for our young and elderly. Who else is going to do it? Surely it is not going to be the Patterson's, Schulz's, O'Farrel's, or Marioni's.

Us we must take care of each other.

Remember to check for Cancer's or Disease's that may run in your family or your nationality. Asian, American Indian, African American are at high risk for gout and liver disease. Hispanic and African American are high risk for high blood pressure. Native American and Hispanic are subject to become addicted to alcohol quicker than other nationalities.

Educate yourself through the various websites available through any search engine

www.lungusa.org
www.americanheart.org
www.cancer.org
www.thyca.org
www.thebreastcancersite.org

there are many others please take to the time to look them up

Take the time to walk at least 10,000 steps a day, drink water, cut sugar and salt in your diet. Truly simple and easy things and prolong your life.

What's Cooking

Hey Honey what's for dinner?
Mom! What are you baking for dessert?
Are you grilling ribs tonight?
Dad,are you basting brisket?

Not to often when you turn on the channel of the you favorite cooking show do you happen to see a woman of color. Through my travels throughout the world I have sampled some of the BEST cooking on the face of this earth from woman of color. So many times we are lost in the shuffle. I have a dear friend Christina of whom I met in Turkey, she is one of the most heartfelt, compassionate person I have met to date. She is smart and has the gift of patience beyond what my mind could possible wrap around until we met. She is a proud mother of two Super fantastic boys. Our families on occasion ate at each others home, since we had limited resource in our location. She was able to put things together I would have never thought of. Not only is she an educated woman, mother, wife, but she is an outstanding cook, who happens to have a parent who is Hispanic. Yet she is lost in the mix and does not have a show on any network.

Another dear friend of mine has one parent from Korea and the other from California(American). Diane is a wonderful Korean cook. Since she was able to expose my family to another cuisine of the Eastern World, Our favorite Food is Korean. The simpleness of it. The way the flavors are able to be brought our with just a pinch of this or that. The preparation of the meat itself is an art. The veggies are so wonderful before the main course my children often fight over who is going to get the last broccoli spear. Again, she does not have a show on TV.

Many times when we look at the networks with these different food shows the majority of the time you will see a man cooking. I have only seen a few shows with a man who is of another nationality other than white.

These words are not to make you think we dislike white people, it is to show that people of color are very much still in the dark. It reaches further than you think. This is to show so many nationalities bring so much to the American table and yet are not able to be seen by the majority of the public.

We just want to show there is more than one side of the paper, the paper may be white but the words are black, how else would you know what was going on if not in another color.

God made us different to enjoy each other not for us to hate one another because of our skin color, hair, height, weight, smile, facial features, or creed.

Take a minute to look at other people point of view, your perception may not be the reality.

Treasure

Relationships are not always between a man and woman. Many women have built Solid friendships with other women and the bond is nearly impossible to break.

Many people pass through your life, the ones who truly make an effort to be a real friend are the ones you keep close.

I have been blessed with some truly great friends past and present. Remember it takes a long time to feel comfortable with a lover who becomes your friend. The same is said for a friendship. We do not just fall in love overnight and know the ends and outs of our mate. They are revealed to us through time,as with a friend.

Ladies, stop being backstabbing and ruthless. There are to many women in this world who need a true friend. There are women in other countries who would long for the freedom some of us take for granted. It is a freedom to have a friend. I bet you never thought of it this way. I lived in a place where some women were told whom they are allowed to speak to and have over their own homes. The freedom of choice was lacking when picking a friend. It was already chosen for them.

If you do have a friend whom you truly care about, listen to what they are saying, not just hear them. "LISTEN"

For a rich man is not measured in Gold in Silver alone, but how he treats his fellow man who were created in the same image.

Treasure are not always Gold or Silver

Give up one for another

First Encounter, Date here and there, More serious dating, Share feelings and thoughts for the future, proposal, engagement, Wedding, Honeymoon, and 1st Anniversary and then Wonder what if . . .

Love is a funny thing, can more than one person own your heart. Can you truly be in love with more than one person. One hand the one gives you the passion, caressing, the sense of protection, Conversation, and just a drive and passion for live. The hand gives you Stability, Sense of Direction in Life, Long Term Goals, Dependable, Caring in a childlike sense, and willing to take what other will not. The two hands have so much and yet you cannot have both. What do you do?

Having someone love you and show you that passion physically, whether it's a touch on the hand while watching TV. Or stroke on the face when waking up from a long nights slumber. Or having a dozen roses waiting for you when you return to work from a lunch you just shared with your partner.

Having someone thier for you through rough times of losing a job, Taking care of a loved one when you are unable, providing when you are down and out and unable to get up.Being able to talk about the Bible and really share and believe in the principles it teaches.

Which do you chose? A loving touch and pretty flowers or a Dependable person who will be there for you. It does not sound like a hard choice, does it?
If someone is able to take care of you when you are unable or provide when you cannot, does it makeup for the lack of passion? Does it make up for the lack of romance? (NOT SEX) No candle light dinners, no roses, no bubblebaths, no birthday parties, no Birthday cards, no Mother's Day Cards,no show of affection but on occasion. But Dependable and hard working to make sure their is roof over your head and food to eat.

Roses and Cards are not going to pay the bills, a slap on the behind is not going to make you feel better when you lost your job. Your heart may tell you to pick the love and compassion of an affectionate person, but you head tells you to pick the person who will provide for you and love you at the same time only in a different way.

Many people face this challenge as it is not something women go through but men as well. It is always said to follow your heart, but what if your heart leads you to the wonderful physical touches, good times, and beautiful gifts and not the home where a heart is waiting for you.

Sometimes you have to wrestle with yourself and truly compare what is going to best in the long run and not just at the moment.

A wise person once told me this, "If you truly love someone imagine yourself with that person 50 years from now, the sex is gone, the looks are gone, and the late night parties have long been a part of your past. All you have is conversation and you are in the middle of a cruise. Would it be worth it? Would you have a good time? and Lastly, "Could you even afford one after years of self indulgence?"

If you respond no to any of these questions you may want to work harder on the relationship or think about another.

Have you every had an physical attraction to someone who did not look like the majority of people you grew up with? Have you had a physical attraction to someone of another religion contrary to what you were taught and believe. One of your best friends on earth is someone whom your family would have a cow over and disapprove? Love comes in all colors. Families all over the earth have been affected by the choices of 2 people. In the history of Black families it is more common for a black man to date a white woman. This has been a culture that has become more mainstream since the 1960's. Black families have been more accepting to interracaial marriages and relationships than any other race.

How many times has a friend or relative brought home somone who is black only to find out it is the non-black family who has the biggest problem with the relationship. Specifically, White families are less accepting. Many white ladies have been disowned by their families. This is not to say there are not many loving White families who could care less about race and are only concerned on how the person is going to treat their daughter. Very well how it should be, based on the person on what is inside not out.

In the past 15 years it is has been more common for Black women to look beyond what they are used to, to find a Wonderful Soulmate. This has led to more Black Women and Other Races of Men relationships. Specifically White Men and Black Women.

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